Does ((( this ))) sound familiar? Many of us have a tendency to be hard on ourselves. We learn from a young age how to be self critical. harsh. pushing. punishing. forcing. harder. faster. better and all that. and more often than not, we crumble under the pressure. beneath the haze of "action" we disconnect from ourselves.
Can we re-educate ourselves to become more tender? more considerate of ourselves? i don´t just mean the physical approach to a yoga practice for example, rather in every way. in the manner in which we talk to ourselves. and even before that, the way we LISTEN to ourselves. can we reconnect and pay attention? ...are you paying attention?
I spoke with someone today about my theory that all of this force and expectation is an ailment of the society we live in, to encourage that pressure-cooker mentality, but really, surely, it´s just another way of keeping us detached and distant from our primary needs and in constant scrupulous comparison and competition with each other.
This exploration of “self care” has been a revolution that i feel has changed my life – and it took many years to get here and i´m sure and hope that the journey of growth and learning will continue. Sure old patterns can flare up and it´s not always easy to treat ourselves in the way that we always need to because, well, life sometimes gets in the way...i totally get that. But perhaps it´s time to consider small and sustainable ways to be a little more tender.
You deserve to feel good. And to treat yourself with the upmost respect and kindness. If that feels tough to swallow, or you´re rolling your eyes at the mere thought of being kind to yourself, then I challenge you to a generous slab of self care, in whatever form.
If you´re interested in some of the things i found useful on my self care journey, you can delve deeper here :::::
Find my Self Care pinterest board with lots of other resources here.
PS we have new Self Care events coming up in Brighton (UK) and in Bergen (Norway) - scroll on for more info!
Take care of you.
header image by Savagesor.